Resentment in Marriage: The Invoice You Never Sent
Resentment in marriage is not an emotion so much as an accounting problem: it is the debt you…
Desire Discrepancy in Marriage: The Lower-Desire Partner Isn’t Broken
Desire discrepancy in marriage — one partner wanting sex more often than the other — is the single…
Defensiveness in Marriage: The Horseman That Feels Like Fairness
Defensiveness in marriage is the only one of the Four Horsemen that feels like virtue while you’re doing…
Love Maps: The Gottman Habit That Keeps Long-Term Couples From Becoming Strangers
Love maps are the reason some couples still feel like they know each other after twenty years while…
The Magic Ratio: Why Happy Couples Need Five Good Moments for Every Bad One
The magic ratio is one of the most quietly powerful findings in relationship science: stable, happy couples maintain…
Skin Hunger in Marriage: Why Long-Term Couples Stop Touching — and How to Fix It
Skin hunger in marriage is the low, often unnamed ache that sets in when a couple who used…
Fondness and Admiration: The Gottman Habit That Quietly Protects a Marriage
What is fondness and admiration in a marriage? Fondness and admiration is the habit of actively noticing and…
Financial Infidelity in Marriage: The Secret Spending That Breaks Trust
What is financial infidelity in marriage? Financial infidelity is the deliberate hiding of money behavior from a spouse:…
Kitchen-Sinking: Why Bringing Up the Past in Every Argument Backfires
Kitchen-sinking is the argument habit of hurling every grievance in at once — the unwashed dishes, last month’s…
Active Constructive Responding: The Small Habit That Predicts Whether Your Marriage Thrives
Active constructive responding — how you react to your partner's good news — can predict marriage satisfaction more…
Negative Sentiment Override: Why You Read the Worst Into Everything Your Partner Does
Negative sentiment override is the quiet reason a kind gesture from your spouse can land like an insult.…
The Demand-Withdraw Pattern: Why One Partner Pushes and the Other Shuts Down
The demand-withdraw pattern is the single most corrosive loop in a marriage: one partner pushes for change or…