Do Opposites Attract? What 130+ Traits Reveal About Who You End Up With
Do opposites attract? It’s one of the few pieces of relationship folklore that has been tested at genuinely…
Defensiveness in Marriage: The Horseman That Feels Like Fairness
Defensiveness in marriage is the only one of the Four Horsemen that feels like virtue while you’re doing…
Staying Together for the Kids: What the Research Actually Says
Staying together for the kids is one of the most agonizing decisions a struggling couple can face —…
The Marshmallow Test, Revisited: Why Willpower Was Never the Real Lesson
The marshmallow test is probably the most famous parenting study ever run — and much of what parents…
Floodlighting: Why Dumping Your Trauma on a First Date Backfires
Floodlighting is what happens when someone unloads their deepest wounds on a first or second date — the…
Love Maps: The Gottman Habit That Keeps Long-Term Couples From Becoming Strangers
Love maps are the reason some couples still feel like they know each other after twenty years while…
Blindsided by Divorce: When Your Partner Says It’s Over and You Never Saw It Coming
Being blindsided by divorce is a particular kind of shock: your partner tells you the marriage is over,…
Glass Child Trauma: The Sibling Who Feels Invisible
A glass child is the brother or sister of a child with intense needs — a disability, a…
The Sunk Cost Relationship: Why “We’ve Already Put in So Much” Keeps You Stuck
A sunk cost relationship is one you stay in not because it is good, but because you have…
The Magic Ratio: Why Happy Couples Need Five Good Moments for Every Bad One
The magic ratio is one of the most quietly powerful findings in relationship science: stable, happy couples maintain…
The Gray Rock Method: How to Deal With a High-Conflict Ex Without Getting Pulled Back In
The gray rock method is a deceptively simple strategy for dealing with a high-conflict ex: make yourself as…
Praising Kids: Why “You’re So Smart” Backfires — and What to Say Instead
When it comes to praising kids, the most natural thing to say — “You’re so smart!” — may…