...
Relationship 99

The blog

Advice worth acting on.

Every article is practical, judgment-free, and written to help — whether you're dating, decades in, raising kids, or starting over.

Friends gathered at a coffee shop, the social circle at stake when losing friends after divorce
Latest Separation & Divorce · August 21, 2026

Losing Friends After Divorce: The Social Fallout No One Prepares You For

Losing friends after divorce is the part nobody warns you about. You brace for the lawyer, the logistics, the strange first weekend without your kids. You do not…

Read article
A brother and sister hugging, illustrating why siblings are so different
Family Life & Parenting August 21, 2026

Why Siblings Are So Different: The Deidentification Effect

Ask any parent of two why siblings are so different and you’ll get a shrug and a joke:…

A man and woman sitting together at a table, asking do opposites attract
Dating & Engaged August 21, 2026

Do Opposites Attract? What 130+ Traits Reveal About Who You End Up With

Do opposites attract? It’s one of the few pieces of relationship folklore that has been tested at genuinely…

A couple arguing in a kitchen, illustrating defensiveness in marriage
Marriage August 21, 2026

Defensiveness in Marriage: The Horseman That Feels Like Fairness

Defensiveness in marriage is the only one of the Four Horsemen that feels like virtue while you’re doing…

family parent child
Separation & Divorce August 12, 2026

Staying Together for the Kids: What the Research Actually Says

Staying together for the kids is one of the most agonizing decisions a struggling couple can face —…

marshmallow child
Family Life & Parenting August 12, 2026

The Marshmallow Test, Revisited: Why Willpower Was Never the Real Lesson

The marshmallow test is probably the most famous parenting study ever run — and much of what parents…

floodlighting date
Dating & Engaged August 12, 2026

Floodlighting: Why Dumping Your Trauma on a First Date Backfires

Floodlighting is what happens when someone unloads their deepest wounds on a first or second date — the…

love maps couple
Marriage August 12, 2026

Love Maps: The Gottman Habit That Keeps Long-Term Couples From Becoming Strangers

Love maps are the reason some couples still feel like they know each other after twenty years while…

blindsided divorce hero
Separation & Divorce August 11, 2026

Blindsided by Divorce: When Your Partner Says It’s Over and You Never Saw It Coming

Being blindsided by divorce is a particular kind of shock: your partner tells you the marriage is over,…

glass child hero
Family Life & Parenting August 11, 2026

The Glass Child: The Sibling Who Grows Up Feeling Invisible

A glass child is the brother or sister of a child with intense needs — a disability, a…

sunk cost hero
Dating & Engaged August 11, 2026

The Sunk Cost Relationship: Why “We’ve Already Put in So Much” Keeps You Stuck

A sunk cost relationship is one you stay in not because it is good, but because you have…

magic ratio hero
Marriage August 11, 2026

The Magic Ratio: Why Happy Couples Need Five Good Moments for Every Bad One

The magic ratio is one of the most quietly powerful findings in relationship science: stable, happy couples maintain…

The gray rock method: staying calm and unreactive while messaging a high-conflict ex
Separation & Divorce August 6, 2026

The Gray Rock Method: How to Deal With a High-Conflict Ex Without Getting Pulled Back In

The gray rock method is a deceptively simple strategy for dealing with a high-conflict ex: make yourself as…

Never miss an article.

One practical relationship tip every Sunday — no spam, unsubscribe anytime.